So, lately I've been feeling the evolution of my old age (24). I think I'm in the mid-mid life crisis because I have been rehashing old wounds and thinking about things that I thought were way behind me. Obviously not... Many failed friendships and relationship(s) later, I feel like I am where I need to be, at the right time. However, when looking back on past mistakes that were either the cause of effect of these failed relationships, I've noticed a common pattern. I just care way too much! Part of me feels that when I love someone whether a friend or whatever, I just would do anything to protect that person. Sort of like a mama bear. So from now on, I will monitor, like a diabetic, how much love I emit to these people.
But is that the remedy? I wasn't convinced. I need to remain me, and the right people will align themselves with my characteristics and give me the compatible reactions. That sounds better.
- Never change who you are for others. That takes the fun out of living your life. You should always be yourself, and the right people will surround you and give back just as much as you give.
I have a best friend that is so freaking amazing. She gives the best advice and her favorite line is, "Do you want me to be honest with you?" Even though she never ceases to give her God-Honest opinion about whatever is going on. She is the type of friend every girl needs. She never allows me to look stupid, (literally and figuratively) HA!, and she always, ALWAYS tells me what I deserve. You need that constant reminder because as women, we settle sometimes without even knowing we are doing it. In our subconscious, we want this and that, but in reality, we say, "Oh it's okay." I am all for compromising, but what I will refrain from doing in the future is settling for a treatment, or lack thereof, for someone that isn't keeping the love emission equal.
And that's it for now. Until next time!
iamlizziejones
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